This was first posted on March 9, 2006, but I thought it was an appropriate throwback to help out all the guys out there shopping for Christmas presents. This is also included in the section on Relationships in Fifty Shades of Phil, only 99 cents!) which is a collection of the 50 best posts from the first 8 years of The Phil Factor. Coincidentally, it also makes a great Christmas or late Hanukkah gift.
(3/9/2006) How we communicate, what’s important to us, and the inequities of societal grooming expectations are all ways men and women differ. Another great divide between the sexes is our views on presents. Anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas can all make or break a relationship from a woman’s perspective. My current quandary is Mrs. Phil’s birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and I have the pressure of choosing a present. My problem is that I think of presents like a guy and she thinks of presents like a woman. Here are a few examples of how men and women might view the same present differently and why I’m terrified of choosing and may just give her cash.
Example 1
Guy: Happy Anniversary honey! Here’s a card, a dozen roses, and I’ve taken out a second mortgage so I can fly you to Paris for a candlelight dinner on top of the Eiffel Tower!
Woman: You are so sweet! With all my work this week I didn’t have time to get you a present. I’m sorry. How about if I make it up to you (wink, wink) back at the hotel after dinner?
Guy: YAHTZEE! (fist pump)
Example 2:
Woman: Happy Anniversary honey! Here’s a card and a present!
Guy: An Ipad6! Thanks baby, this is great! With all my work this week I didn’t have time to get you a present. I’m sorry. How about if I make it up to you (wink, wink) in the bedroom tonight? (sly smile)
Woman: You forgot! How could you be so thoughtless?!!? You can sleep on the couch tonight! (storms out, door slams) (Calm down all you tech geeks, the IPad 6 isn’t out yet)
Sometimes even the presents themselves can mean different things to men and women. Here are some examples of presents men might give, how we mean them, and what they mean to women.
1. A romantic card with breakfast in bed, flowers sent to your work, and a nice dinner out.
What men are trying to say: “Will you sleep with me?”
What women think: “He’s a sweet, thoughtful guy.”
2. A safety kit for your car with road flares, tools, and a shovel.
What men are trying to say: “I love you and I want you to be safe.”
What women think: “What a thoughtless, un-romantic oaf.”
3. Lingerie
What men are trying to say: “I think you are a beautiful, sexy woman.”
What women think: “That selfish bastard is thinking with his little head instead of his big head.”
4. Any kind of home appliance.
What men are trying to say: “I’ve noticed how hard you work. I want to make your life easier.”
What women think:
“If this isn’t grounds for justifiable homicide, I don’t know what is!”
All of this thinking out loud isn’t getting me any closer to choosing a present. If you’ve got any suggestions I’d love to hear them in the comments section below. If you enjoy my nonsense follow me on Twitter @ThePhilFactor or check out my books on Amazon B&N and the iTunes bookstore so I can afford to buy my wife a present that adequately compensates her for being married to me. As always, if you enjoy #ThePhilFactor or know some one who needs some present buying guidance, please share on Facebook or Twitter by the buttons below.
Thank you so much for reblogging me yesterday. I got some new followers and likes which is awesome, of course. I always enjoy your blogs and this one is no exception. Unfortunately, without knowing your wife, it’s difficult for me to suggest a suitable present but if she is anything like the women of my family, clothes, makeup or jewelry will do just fine, thank you.
You’re welcome and thanks for linking to me in your blog. I like your blog posts too. Don’t get too frustrated with page views. Write what you enjoy and people will find you and enjoy it too. Of course now that you mentioned the Bieber you’re all set forever.