This post is for all the guys that may still be scrambling for a last minute gift for Valentine’s Day. For the ladies it may help you when you think to yourself, “What the hell was he thinking?” It was originally posted in 2006. Yes, I was blogging back then. It is also an excerpt from my book #FiftyShades of Phil.
The Present Tense
How we communicate, what’s important to us, and the inequities of societal grooming expectations are all ways men and women differ. Another great divide between the sexes is our views on presents. Anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas can all make or break a relationship from a woman’s perspective. My current quandary is Valentine’s Day is coming up and I have the pressure of choosing a present. My problem is that I think of presents like a guy and she thinks of presents like a woman. Here are a few examples of how men and women might view the same present differently and why I’m terrified of choosing and may just give her cash.
Guy: Happy Anniversary honey! Here’s a card, a dozen roses, and I’ve taken out a second mortgage so I can fly you to Paris for a candlelight dinner on top of the Eiffel Tower!
Woman: You are so sweet! With all my work this week I didn’t have time to get you a present. I’m sorry. How about if I make it up to you (wink, wink) back at the hotel after dinner?
Guy: YAHTZEE! (fist pump)
Woman: Happy Anniversary honey! Here’s a card and a present!
Guy: An Ipad6! Thanks baby, this is great! With all my work this week I didn’t have time to get you a present. I’m sorry. How about if I make it up to you (wink, wink) in the bedroom tonight? (sly smile)
Woman: You forgot! How could you be so thoughtless?!!? You can sleep on the couch tonight! (storms out, door slams) (Calm down all you tech geeks, the IPad 6 isn’t out yet)
Sometimes even the presents themselves can mean different things to men and women. Here are some examples of presents men might give, how we mean them, and what they mean to women.
1. A romantic card with breakfast in bed, flowers sent to your work, and a nice dinner out.
What men are trying to say: “Will you sleep with me?”
What women think: “He’s a sweet, thoughtful guy.”
2. A safety kit for your car with road flares, tools, and a shovel.
What men are trying to say: “I love you and I want you to be safe.”
What women think: “What a thoughtless, un-romantic oaf.”
What men are trying to say: “I think you are a beautiful, sexy woman.”
What women think: “That selfish bastard is thinking with his little head instead of his big head.”
4. Any kind of home appliance.
What men are trying to say: “I’ve noticed how hard you work. I want to make your life easier.”
What women think:
“If this isn’t grounds for justifiable homicide, I don’t know what is!”
All of this thinking out loud isn’t getting me any closer to choosing a present. If you’ve got any suggestions I’d love to hear them in the comments section below. If you enjoy my nonsense check out my books on Amazon, B&N and the iTunes bookstore so I can afford to buy my wife a present that adequately compensates her for being married to me. As always, if you enjoy #ThePhilFactor or know some one who needs some present buying guidance, please share on Facebook or Twitter by the buttons below.
I’d say you hit a home run with these examples – they’re funny, but true 🙂
My real fascination though was with the photos! woowee!
I know. I love the awkward photos.
“I’m terrified of choosing and may just give her cash.” I started laughing right there. Excellent line.
Isn’t it hard to beat cash as a present?
Let her lie in bed all day, keep her topped up with coffee and treats while she reads. You’re on a winner. I’ve heard.
Why don’t I get to lie in bed all day?
Because she’s gonna buy you the i-pad 6, wink, wink, and you’ve already read Fifty Shades of Phil.
A breakthrough, you are on the brink
You’re not a clueless as you think
Up on 50% of guys
By knowing, at least, what not to buy
Good one, Marissa!
I don’t care for this holiday. I already reminded him of that this week.
Good luck 🙂
The photos, Phil, the photos! Where on earth do you find them? I feel for you poor men; sometimes there is just nowhere to turn…