This post was first featured on #ThePhilFactor in October of 2005. If I had to re-write it today I don’t think I’d change a thing. The picture below is of the Am I Gone Funeral Home in Buffalo, NY. I applaud their sense of humor, or I apologize if it’s just an Italian family name.
In the past 18 months I’ve gone to too many funerals and honestly they were not nearly as fun as they should have been. I think funerals should be conducted as wedding receptions are. Really, what’s the difference? People stand up and make speeches about the guests of honor at both occasions. I do think that dancing with the guest of honor at funeral would be tacky, but not out of the question.
Music, dancing, drinking, and presents for the survivors of the deceased would make funerals much more popular events than they currently are. That would however bring up the question, what is a good funeral present? When I was a kid the standard gift was a casserole of some kind. It seemed like every time anyone died my mother would bake up a casserole of some kind and send me to bring it to the grieving neighbors. Somehow I don’t think a casserole is an adequate replacement for a lost loved one. How about a plasma t.v. that could hang on the wall? Now that would be an adequate replacement for a lost loved one! (That’s a not so subtle hint for those of you that know me)
And why are eulogies always so sad? I think the eulogy should be conducted as a roast of the loved one. (Not literally though) I tried this humorous strategy to mixed response at my mother’s funeral 7 months ago. On the altar of a Catholic church I suggested that since my mother was such a neat freak in life it might be appropriate to spread her ashes on the carpet and vacuum them up. She would have appreciated that. I wasn’t looking at the priest, but apparently he appeared quite aghast. Needless to say though, the right people laughed.
I think every funeral should have a reception afterwards. Not the usual wake at the deceased’s house eating casseroles. Why not rent out a big banquet hall and have entertainment? If my pallbearers don’t hook up with the mourning hot chicks in the coat room at the reception I will specifically ask God to send them to Hell. (Only for a little while though) I think I’ve just found my second career. I’m going to put on funeral receptions. Entertainment, food, dancing, the works! I think people would feel a lot better about blowing thousands of dollars on a funeral if they got to have a good time at it. I’ll be The Funeral Planner! I can’t wait for the movie starring Jennifer Lopez.
I think that I’ll put in my will that every attendee at my funeral (if I ever die) will have to read their favorite Phil Factor. I’m starting the guest list now. Just hit the “Like” button to be added. As always, if you enjoy what you read here at #ThePhilFactor please hit the Facebook, Twitter, or any other share button you see fit.
Funny how I always wanted a party when I die! Will you be my funeral planner? I just liked your FB page so I should be on the list now.
I am with you on this. Celebrate their life with laughter, instead of doom and gloom. Good write up!